Talking About Sex Too Much?

Do I talk about sex too much?

I’ve certainly been told that before. Maybe you’ve even thought it yourself.

But here’s the thing—sex isn’t just something I talk about. It’s my career. It’s the work I’ve dedicated my life to. Just like a lawyer talks about law or a doctor talks about health, or a chef talks about food (I do that too BTW), a sexological bodyworker and sex coach talks about sex.

Not because it’s edgy. Not because it’s provocative. But because it matters.

Sex is one of the most fundamental aspects of being human. It’s how we create life, how we bond, how we experience pleasure, and even how we access deeper states of healing and consciousness. Yet, it remains one of the most taboo and misunderstood topics in our culture.

And as someone who works in this space, I am often misunderstood.

Some assume that because I talk about sex, it must be all I think about—that I lead with it, that my work is an excuse to indulge, or that I have some hidden agenda. But those assumptions couldn’t be further from the truth.

I don’t do this work because I’m obsessed with sex. I do it because I see how much pain exists around it.

For centuries, sex has been buried under layers of conditioning—religion told us it was sinful, society told us it was dirty, and culture either hypersexualized it or made it something we shouldn’t talk about at all. And because of that, people struggle. They feel disconnected from their own bodies. They feel ashamed of their desires. They feel lost in their relationships.

And that’s exactly why I do this work.

Sex is supposed to be fun, free, wild, and very spiritual....we were designed with these bodies capable of feeling so much pleasure. and for connecting with Spirit itself, but it's all been contorted. Often by design.

But let’s talk about something else.

It’s not just the topic of sex that makes people uncomfortable—it’s who is talking about it.

If a woman teaches about sexuality, it’s often seen as nurturing, empowering, or spiritual. But when a man does? It’s more triggering. More suspect. There’s an assumption that I must be leading with my desires, that this must be about me, or that my work is somehow self-serving.

But those stereotypes? They’re false.

I don’t do this work for my own fulfillment. That comes from my wife. She is the love of my life, my partner, and the source of my deepest intimacy. My work is not about personal gratification—it’s about helping others find deeper connection, pleasure, and freedom first in themselves, and then in their own relationships.

We all have a role in healing this space. We all have something to learn. And men—just as much as women—deserve to explore, understand, and reclaim their sexual energy in a way that is healthy, powerful, and conscious.

I don’t talk about sex just to talk about it. I talk about it because I see the damage that not talking about it has caused. I talk about it because healing this area of life opens doors to confidence, connection, pleasure, and deep personal freedom.

And yes, I know that my work can trigger people. That’s okay. But when discomfort arises, it’s worth asking:" Is this about me, or is it about something I haven’t fully explored in myself?"

Because just because something makes people uncomfortable doesn’t mean it shouldn’t be talked about.

I will not dim my light to make others comfortable. I've done that before. And it didn't feel good.

This is my mission. This is my purpose. This is the work I am here to do.

And I will keep holding this space—because someone has to. And men also have to as well. We are half the equation on this planet and existence, and our voice around healthy sexuality matters. We evolve together.